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Beschäftige mich schon seit geraumer Zeit mit dem Thema Persönlichkeitsentwicklung. Dies ist ein Vlog, wo ich meinen Alltag dokumentieren werde: alle kleinen Schritte und Ziele, Misserfolge und Stories. Vorrangig wird es um Cold Approaches gehen. 

Ich bin von PickUp begeistert, weil ich dadurch die schönsten und aufregendsten Erfahrungen mache. Ausserdem ist es ein extrem wertvoller Prozess, bei dem sich meine Werte von äusserer Bestätigung und Meiden aller unangenehmer Situationen zu echtem Selbstwertgefühl und innerem Frieden verlagert. Mein Ziel ist selbstgesteuert durch diese Welt zu gehen, Damen so ungehemmt wie respektvoll zu begegnen, und Erfahrungen zu machen, von denen andere ein Leben lang Träumen. 

 

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Report 03.06.2025

Heute ein kurzer Eintrag. Habe meine 5 in 30 Minuten geschafft. Das Ziel für morgen ist wieder 5 in 30 min und die Konversation nicht zu verlassen oder vorzeitig zu beenden.

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Report 02.05.2025 and on objectification

Today, I managed to get in four within 30 minutes again.  Reasonably, I could have talked to at least 8 I guess. I’m still going at it again tomorrow. The new focus will be on minimizing time between seeing a women I find attractive and the moment I open my mouth to speak. Another thing to keep note is that while I’m approaching genuinely beautiful women I would have been scared of or talked myself out of (big achievement) I still eject out of conversations all the time. This will be another challenge in the future. For now, we’re trying to minimize the time between noticing and talking.   Why am I setting strict and objectifying goals? To improve at anything, you must measure it. To measure it you must objectify it. Pick Up does this by objectifying women (I got my first HB8.5, whatever that is). I'm objecting my behavior and my actions. Not my whole social or sex life, but very small tangible behaviors and actions I want to improve. One at the time. Not to impress anyone or up my lay count. But to become the person I want to be and live life on my terms, and have the experiences I always dreamed of.. It might seem odd to treat this like soccer practice. However, knowing how to be truly confident, non needy, build self esteem, whatever we call it, doesn’t make you that person. High self-esteem is built by acting in a way you would if you already had high self-esteem.  Behavior first, beliefs and values follow. In my case: the belief is that talking to stranger is normal. It’s not a big deal to talk to and flirt with a beautiful woman. The value is that I deem a fun or potentially beautiful experience to be more than potential social embarrassment or sexual rejection. This means I should act in a way as if it’s not a big deal, that is, don’t hesitate or linger. If I do this enough, the belief that it’s not a big deal will follow, and it actually won’t be at some point. I can already feel the change, my previous experience also backs this up. My thinking is to do this with every behavior. For example, staying in conversation, being bold and upfront, dressing well, making jokes, teasing, sharing opinions, etc.. Side note: I’m not certainly staring from zero here, so manage your expectations if you try to do the same.  But for me it’s the first time that I’m very deliberately seeding attractive, high-self esteem habits, and uprooting unattractive, hindering ones. It’s all about building habits, one at the time, one step at the time.

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Report 01.06.2025

Today started off really well. I approached four girls within the first eighteen minutes of the challenges. After, I stopped for no good reason. It’s absolutely crazy how many beautiful women are walking around right in front of my house. Don't think I could be this efficient anywhere else. Anyways, right after the 30 minutes went past, I saw a beautiful blonde waking my way, and was totally calm and relaxed when I told her she looked beautiful. She’s 24 and I’m 21, hopefully this is going somewhere. We’ll see. I’m going to try again tomorrow. My new goal is to do five approaches in 30 minutes. Then I’ll work my way up to ten. After, I’m planning to do only groups since this is what I’ve been avoiding recently.

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Report 31.05.2025

(Englisch, da ich momentan in Australien lebe und schreiben übe) I have come to realize that jerking off to fantasies in my head probably hurts me more than it helps. It puts me in a headspace that is not based in reality. I only managed to do one approach in the mall today and ejected after 30 seconds. This type of approach is the norm for me, and that’s where I need to focus on. Too often, I deem myself a lot better or worse than I am, and have unrealistic expectations about outcomes. I want to have these experiences in real life, but I found that when it actually comes time to have them in real life I freeze up, and (most of the time) eject. This could be during an approach or not being able to perform during sex because I am not present enough. So from this day on, I will be writing reports everyday. My sticking points are (1) don’t hesitate to approach (2) don’t eject out of conversation (3) make observations (4) be present in the experience. So, tomorrow, I’m taking half an hour of my day, go to the mall, and try to have less than 3 minutes in between sets.  I will be recording the whole thing, to check whether I have achieved my goal.

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