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Noch einer meiner Artikel die ich aus einem anderen Forum ausgegraben habe. Zu der Zeit wo ich diesen Artikel geschrieben habe, war ich wohl in meinem lernintensivsten Monaten. Ich war ca. 3-4x pro Woche alleine weg und habe sehr sehr viele Approaches gemacht.

Folgendes waren tiefe Einsichten dieser Zeit, Einsichten die jedem Newbie zu Gute kommen.

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Movies are constantly playing in our heads. Especially when you are RIGHT BEFORE a crucial moment. The moment is all there is... TRUE. But that doesnt mean that we are willing to go into every moment.

Anxiety also exists in every single moment when you are about to push your boundaries, and when you live in the moment you FEEL your anxiety intensively. It becomes very important that you have made your decisions BEFOREHAND, about how you are going to deal with situations which you need to undergo to get the reference experiences to design your life the way you want it. Otherwise you might avoid in the moment.

This implies that you need to think in the future. You must be in the moment when you are dealing with stuff head on, but if you didnt make a action plan in your mind of how youre going to deal with moments with lots of crippling emotions beforehand, there is a good chance that you will avoid the needed situations.

How to:

Get a few basic principles in mind, so that you know exactly where to channel your "moments".

The most important principle: Freedom of Outcome.

This one goes so deep...damn, DO NOT THINK FURTHER THAN THE MOMENT YOU OPEN, do not give a shit where the interaction goes, lead it to whereever you want it, but are totally unattached to the outcome. Also be totally free of outcome about the whole night. Every night is a success when you took action. Simple as that.

1st set when you enter the club. The very first girl you see, GO, SAY ANYTHING TO HER! Ask her for a tissue or tell she has a nice butt, BUT OPEN HER to get out of your head.

KEEP GOING! Do not procrastinate and dont let the momentum die down! Build it, and you will not be disappointed. Keep going until a set hooks.

As soon as it ends, guess what, keep going, dont get lazy.

IN SET:

Its time to be in the moment.

Slow down, be concious of whats going on, not self concious. Thats being present. Say whatever comes to you mind naturally, never think hard for something to say. Otherwise, in the long term, you shoot yourself in the foot, even though you get worse results at first. (Thats my stage now).

Anyways, you dont want to live your life like that, thinking hard to impress someone. Means that you see yourself as lower value.

Self amuse. You want to live by your values, and you ultimately want to be an authentic guy who is attractive. Your not going to get that when you try to please people. Get self trust.

In my opinion... Even if this was the total wrong way to get laid or attractive to other people, I sure as hell still don't want to be any different from who i am, just to get superficial value, like being well socially accepted.

Watch Easyrider: Peter Fonda, as Wyatt says: "I never wanted to be someone else."

In the context of the movie, THAT HIT A CHORD IN ME! Even though simple sentence.

So if your sense of humor is different from the masses, let it be.

Alltogether, you need to be a proactive person in order to channel your life in the direction you want it, by a moment to moment basis.

Being proactive means that you have a circle of influence. You know that you cant change that some guys or girls wont like you, you get laid tonight or that you get rejected.

But you also know that you can take actions which can change the circumstances in your favour.

And thats exactly what I wrote above! You are totally in control of opening the first girl you see, you can choose to keep going until you get into the right mindset, you can choose to not give a fuck what people think of you,

you can force to stop all your thoughts for a few moments and take action, and last but not least you can choose to undergo pain to get the desired reference experiences.

That is your circle of influence! YOU HAVE INFLUENCE ON THE MATRIX! AWESOME? AWESOME!

All the best,

Veit