Have you ever asked yourself why it is that you get an overwhelming urge to mate with a woman possessing high replication value(9s or 10s)—and then almost simultaneously get an equally overwhelming urge to run away?
This behavior seems illogical and counterproductive; after all, rejection causes little harm.
Emotionally, however, rejection can be a brutal experience, lasting hours, weeks, and even months. This fear is known as approach anxiety(AA).
AA results from 2 principal factors :
- The fear of reprisal : "May be She has a guy or a brother, who will probably kick my ass, I don't want trouble" - then you run away 😰
- The fear of rejection : Earlier when you were rejected by a woman, the news circulated throughout the village, which annihilated every chance of finding another girl.
Even though our logical minds tell us that laws protect us from reprisal and rejection in our modern social order, many great pickup artists agree: The fear of a cold approach never goes away. It’s hardwired into your brain. So keep in mind that : Confidence is not the objective. Competence is.
Mindset Anti Approaching anxiety
- Women are bored(you give them story to tell other people)
- Women are hornier than Men : You’re a selfish asshole if you don’t go over and make her day
- Woman crave a magical movie moment asshole
- Other people have just as much social fear as you
- Practice makes perfect - make them practice it’s a win win situation
- As you are infield nobody gives a damn shit about you! (when you get home from school do you still remember all unkown people you met on your way? you don't care about them)
- The only person who’s opinion really matters is you!
- Don’t care about the outcome! - don't care about how you opening will bring you to the close(focus on learning and improve your game, every setback is a learning skill)
Learn to repeat your own opinion of yourself :
I know what I want, I know who I am, fuck everyone else!
Also Ego causes alot of AA : you feel like you don't want to loose your face in front of women or people in general
Kill( or control) your ego beast : that’s the only effective long term solution to social freedom
The last word :
The fear Of opening is Imaginary. what makes a fear feeling is a presence of a danger behind an action. (Girls doesn’t bite, or heat or kill someone because he opened them).
Imagine the worst scenario. What do you risk by approaching her?
When you stop gaming for a while. The AA become strong again.