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„I define success in a qualitative way: maximizing happiness with whichever woman/women I prefer to be with.

Success = Maximizing happiness with whichever woman/women we prefer

This may seem like an obvious statement, but the implications are actually quite profound. For most of the men in the world, their “success” with women is defined by:

- Being married or not being single.
- Never being rejected.
- Dating a woman who is more attractive than his friends’ girlfriends.
- How many women they can approach or have a date with.
- Quantity of women rather than quality of women.
- If she fits some stereotype of what “beauty” is.
- If she’s the kind of woman you’ve been raised to think you should date.

When we define success as finding the relationship(s) that will maximize our happiness, our approach takes a completely new light. Instead of waiting and hoping for a woman to select us, instead of racking up numbers, instead of winning bragging rights, instead of avoiding rejections — our success is defined by screening through as many women as possible until we find the ones we enjoy and the ones who enjoy us.“

Mark Manson, Models