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Text ist im Original belassen, aber grammatikalisch von Perplexity AI nachgebessert. Es ist mein persönlicher lay report. Und ich poste es nochmal im Deutschen Hello world, this is David from Germany, my first post here and I'm proud to announce that after an over 2-year period and recently getting into PUA again I did it: First off, I'm a 35-year-old broke guy with addiction issues, attending college for electrical engineering – basically a student being paid by German tax money to go to school and become a better version of myself. Anyway, this is it: Let me share some inspiration here. I have been intentionally setting my nofap clock to zero after regularly relapsing on the 30th day. But now with more confidence, because I'm attending AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) meetings, staying sober, and lifting weights in the gym. Pretty decent results after 6 months of gym. I have been talking to Philipp from the meetings about natural seduction. In his former life, he would be some broke bum staying at girls’ places as a lifestyle, having no apartment for himself. He talks about the Statement of Intent, its importance early on in the game. He would talk to a girl in the sauna of a privately owned public space. And after chatting a bit, he would directly let her know that he is on. Funny thing: I opened up to him about it and asked for help to get laid soon, communicating my despair. Listening to Tom Torero, he would also mention communicating erotic vibes early on to save time and not wiggle tails or end up in something friend-zone-like. I really got jealous in a positive, challenging way, to find out for myself. I wanted to know. "I want you right now, from man to woman and more – not friend to friend." – Tom Torero with a stone-cold face. I was already naturally horny due to testosterone spikes days before. No alcohol, a lot of gym deadlifts, eating healthy, and following a sleeping schedule. My sweat became more oily, my hair thicker. But I'm an eccentric, choleric, getting aroused too early in the game. I mean boner-like arousal. I even circumcised myself in my youth to perform longer. My core sticking point, I would find out, lays exactly here. In the first minutes of approach, I lose touch with what’s up next, bouncing somewhere and literally talking small minds like an erupting volcano and getting nowhere. So my critical error is being too invested emotionally early on and not handling logistics and SOIs, which kills attraction due to lack of control. I read this on here and really let that sink in. It's not a leading/leader quality, but an amplifying/stationary one. And should only be used for that. Without movement, anything leads nowhere. Reviewing my mind alone in my dorm I really decided to be aware and have it together at the next set. Mind you, I'm horny as fuck and trying to conceal it. So, I would enter a bus already passively horny right after my gym session the day before. Heading to college at 6:49 am I enter the bus. I see this 44 y/o Italian Lucia MILF with a huge pack of saggy gigantomastic tits. She says she even has back issues because of it. Heading to the back of the bus, cornering her. Opener was: "It's chilly here. Colder than outside." First thought. Nothing special. What comes to mind. Surroundings, logistics. We start chatting. Seven bus stations ahead I would say, "Let's swap numbers." I really leaned into the number close, because the general horny vibe somehow didn’t concern her. So no reason given. Must be the music (of my heart = fuck yeah). It worked, so later that day she and I would organize logistics for the next meeting. She would show up around 16:00 at the same bus stop where I had got in. Being crazy horny but aware of the steps, SOIs and logistics in mind, I would speak about random stuff, filling gaps, no real game at all. I knew it was on, and sexual already. Just hooking a stranger later that day just for talking couldn’t make sense to me. She would invest in dialogues, giving her pennies on everything, keeping pace so to speak. I somehow felt my heart pounding, knowing I would have SOI now directly. Heart rate goes up. It didn’t come naturally but more forced than relaxed, and hasty. My voice shook, but I whispered it into her ear to not tremble too loudly. I waited for a "sweet spot", somehow a magical window to appear – which looking back is nonsense. It’s the worst time anytime. A sticking point is calculating rejection beforehand. Silently trembling, saying into her ears: "Look, I don't wish to publicly expose you, but I really need you now, from man to woman, and more. I really think you make me hot, I have a difficult time right now just watching you and pretending not to be. Let's just get to my place." (looking back, she was in her ovulating cycle. Tom Torero said 13 days after first blood women are more testosterone driven, take more risks. Tribute to him.) Vibe changed quick from blabla to Anime-Eyes / Bambi-Eyes. Anyway, heart and nervousness stayed really high. Maintaining logical and senseless small talk seemed stupid, but anyway the bus went on. And she replies simply, calmly, in a collected manner: "Yes, let's do this, good idea." She was on. Blood flow to her temples. Red Face baby 😄 Talking on, I really had logistics in mind, obsessed. To not lose myself in standing ovations. I told her at one point shortly before leaving the bus some dirty talk stuff: "Girl, all day in college I had you on my mind." "Calculating electrical circuits and having my way with you next door." She would smile. At my place she flakes, after I take off my trousers and have make out with her shortly after entering the doors, stating she would not do it on a first date, which led to me having blue balls and physical pain in my abdomen. Loading inhibition so to speak. We would chatter, relax again. Last Minute Resistance. Tom Torero said: "Be like a horse whisperer, calming it, not leaving. Horses can run away themselves. Women can too." No same-day lay. I kept it civil. Ejected her after around 2 relaxed hours of rapport building and creating comfort. Next days ahead and I had to get sleep and to work. Two hours of blue balls, pain, artificially being cool with her – I quit. Nearly went ballistic, but cock lock after loading led me to not sleeping well at all. I mean, I could have jerked off but I practice nofap and dopamine loading here. Bullet not ejected. Keeping this set fun, gentlemanly, and civil, I escorted her to her apartment which is 10 minutes from my place haha. Protector vibes. At home again I would lay down in pain. Sexless. Alone. No way that night. Al dente Macaroni. Well, in the meetings I learned to accept the things I cannot change and pray for serenity and power to locate and change the ones I can. We would meet the next day again. Anyway. But before laying some hours later, I'm hitting the gym before. Having my phone on me I see her texting, planning logistics, stating we should watch a movie & talk. In my blue balls disappointment from yesterday I really started to lose it and let her know. I went direct again: "Listen, before things get too complicated I said it before and I really have to clarify that I'm interested in you from male to female and I think we're not a match if you're only in for movies and speaking. I'm a simple dude, ones and zeroes (tribute to Tom Torero again), and the night before I really was in pain, my balls physically hurt and my abdomen too. I was so horny and I told you! If you don't bother about my feelings we just need to leave it there. It's suffering that movies & talking will cause. No fun at all, Lucia." "So just let us keep things as they are and see each other in the bus," ejecting her, putting down the phone, and getting back to lifting. Crazy part here – she literally appeared 15 minutes later, cave-woman method, hitting on me, extracting me from the gym. Dressed like going out for clubbing – in the gym! Mind you, the gym is only 5 minutes from my apartment, and from hers 10 minutes. So disqualifying her after SOIs were given, direct game engaged, she was in for the fuck. I was really surprised, I told her I would get my stuff and head on, having my way with her. Having had a shower together and sex afterwards, it's now 7 days passed, we had sex twice. Life is good. I'm out. David --------- Hallo Welt, hier ist David aus Deutschland, mein erster Post hier, und ich bin stolz zu verkünden, dass ich es nach über zwei Jahren und seit kurzem wieder mit PUA geschafft habe: Zuerst einmal: Ich bin 35, pleite, hatte Suchtprobleme und studiere gerade Elektrotechnik – im Grunde also ein Student, der von deutschen Steuergeldern unterstützt wird, um zur Schule zu gehen und eine bessere Version von mir selbst zu werden. Jedenfalls: Das ist es. Ich möchte hier ein bisschen Inspiration teilen. Ich habe meine Nofap-Uhr absichtlich immer wieder auf null gesetzt, nachdem ich regelmäßig am 30. Tag rückfällig geworden war. Aber diesmal habe ich mehr Selbstvertrauen, weil ich AA-Meetings (Anonyme Alkoholiker) besuche, nüchtern bleibe und im Fitnessstudio trainiere. Nach 6 Monaten Training habe ich ziemlich gute Ergebnisse. Ich habe mit Philipp aus den Meetings über natürliche Verführung gesprochen. In seinem früheren Leben war er ein abgebrannter Typ, der bei verschiedenen Frauen wohnte und nie eine eigene Wohnung hatte. Er redet über das „Statement of Intent“ (Absichtserklärung) und wie wichtig es ist, es früh zu bringen. Er meinte, man sollte einer Frau im Sauna-Bereich eines privaten Fitnessstudios nach kurzem Smalltalk direkt zeigen, dass man interessiert ist. Das Lustige: Ich habe mich ihm geöffnet und ihn um Hilfe gebeten, laid zu werden, meine Verzweiflung ehrlich angesprochen. Tom Torero spricht auch davon, erotische Vibes früh zu kommunizieren, um Zeit zu sparen und nicht in einer Freundschaftsschiene zu landen. Das hat in mir eine positive Eifersucht ausgelöst, ein Gefühl der Herausforderung. Ich wollte es selbst herausfinden. „Ich will dich genau jetzt, von Mann zu Frau – nicht von Freund zu Freund.“ – Tom Torero, mit eiskaltem Gesichtsausdruck. Ich war sowieso schon geil durch Testosteronspitzen in den Tagen davor. Kein Alkohol, viele Deadlifts im Gym, gesundes Essen, und mein Schlafrhythmus passte. Mein Schweiß wurde öliger, meine Haare dicker. Aber: Ich bin exzentrisch, cholerisch, und erregt zu früh. Also nicht nur Lust – sondern richtige Erektion gleich beim Einstieg. In meiner Jugend habe ich mich sogar selbst beschnitten, um länger durchzuhalten. Mein Kernproblem lag genau hier: in den ersten Minuten des Approaches. Ich verlor den Faden, redete wie ein ausbrechender Vulkan und kam nirgendwo hin. Mein kritischer Fehler: zu früh zu viele Emotionen investieren, Logistik und SOIs nicht klar führen. Das tötet Attraction, weil die Kontrolle fehlt. Ich habe das hier gelesen und es hat Klick gemacht. Das ist keine Leader-Qualität – eher Verstärkung, statisch. Das sollte nur dafür genutzt werden. Ohne Bewegung führt nichts weiter. Allein in meinem Wohnheim habe ich das reflektiert und beschlossen, beim nächsten Set achtsam und gesammelt zu sein. Und ja – ich war horny as fuck, habe aber versucht, es zu verbergen. Also: nach dem Gym, latent erregt, stieg ich morgens um 6:49 Uhr in den Bus zur Uni. Da sehe ich diese 44-jährige Italienerin, Lucia, eine MILF mit riesigen, hängenden Brüsten. Sie meinte sogar, sie habe davon Rückenprobleme. Ich gehe nach hinten im Bus, setze mich in ihre Nähe. Mein Opener: „Hier ist es kalt. Kälter als draußen.“ Ganz spontan, nichts Besonderes. Einfach Situation. Wir reden. Sieben Haltestellen später sage ich: „Lass uns Nummern tauschen.“ Ich zog es durch – aber ohne großartige horny-Vibes. Kein Grund genannt, einfach so. Vielleicht lag’s an der Musik. Aber: es hat funktioniert. Später am Tag vereinbarten wir ein Treffen. Gegen 16 Uhr am gleichen Busstop. Ich war horny wie verrückt, aber bewusst und mit Plan im Kopf (SOIs und Logistik). Ich redete belangloses Zeug, kein Game. Doch mir war klar: Es ist on, schon sexuell. Sie investierte fleißig. Mein Herz raste. Ich wusste: Jetzt SOI. Es kam nicht locker, eher forciert und hastig. Meine Stimme zitterte, also flüsterte ich es ihr leise ins Ohr: „Schau, ich will dich nicht öffentlich bloßstellen, aber ich brauche dich jetzt. Von Mann zu Frau, und mehr. Du machst mich heiß, es fällt mir schwer, das zu verbergen. Lass uns direkt zu mir gehen.“ (Rückblickend: Sie war im Eisprung. Tom Torero sagt, 13 Tage nach der Periode sind Frauen risikofreudiger durch mehr Testosteron. Tribute to him.) Die Stimmung kippte sofort – Anime-Augen, Bambi-Blick. Nervosität blieb hoch, Smalltalk erschien dumm, aber der Bus fuhr weiter. Sie antwortete ganz ruhig: „Ja, lass uns das machen. Gute Idee.“ Sie war on. Rotes Gesicht. Später bei mir: Sie steigt kurz vor Sex aus, nachdem ich die Hose heruntergelassen hatte und loslegen wollte. Sagt, kein Sex beim ersten Date. Blue Balls, Druck im Bauch. Zwei Stunden Comfort-Gespräch, dann eject. Kein Same-Day-Lay. Zurück im Wohnheim: kein Schlaf. Keine Masturbation, wegen Nofap. Schmerz ausgehalten. Am nächsten Tag wieder getroffen. Sie schreibt, wir sollten „Film schauen und reden“. Ich war noch von gestern frustriert. Also schrieb ich direkt: „Schau, ich habe gesagt: Ich will dich als Frau. Keine Filme & Reden. Gestern hatte ich Schmerzen, ich war so horny, ich habe es dir gesagt. Wenn dir das egal ist, dann beenden wir es hier. Movies & talk bedeuten Leiden. Kein Spaß.“ Danach eject. Handy weggelegt. Wieder ins Gym. Und das Krasse: 15 Minuten später steht sie da. Gekleidet wie fürs Clubbing, im Gym. Holt mich raus, volle Caveman-Methode. Gym 5 Minuten von meiner Wohnung, 10 Minuten von ihrer. Also: nach Disqualifikation, SOIs und direktem Game – sie war in. Ich überrascht, sage: Okay, ich hole meine Sachen, lass uns gehen. Dusche zusammen, dann Lay. Jetzt, 7 Tage später: Wir hatten zweimal Sex. Life is good. Ich bin raus. David

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Kummer verbreiten? Ich hab selten so gut sortierte Gedanken gesehen. Mach es besser! Guter Beitrag. Ich finde mich wieder darin. Wie geht es dir Heute?

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Also gesetzt den Fall ich hätte einen Sohn würde ich ihn versuchen aus der Schule rauszunehmen, so früh wie möglich und auf home schooling umzusteigen bzw. in andere soziale Zirkel einpflegen. Die Schule in der heutigen Form ist stark vom Katholizismus geprägt. Außerdem würde ich ihn wahrscheinlich bis zum 13. Lebensjahr bei seiner Mutter lassen und wirklich dann getrennt erziehen. Mit Erziehung meine ich einfach Teilhabe am gesellschaftlichen Leben. Ziel der Unternehmung soll ein geschäftsfähiger, vernünftiger, disziplinierter und wissbegieriger Charakter sein. Mein Vater hat mich früh aus dem Kindergarten rausgenommen. Bin mit ihm per LKW mitgefahren. Durfte mit 5 auf seinem Schoß das erste mal das Lenkrad eines LKW's mit Anhänger auf der Autobahn lenken. Im Kindergarten, habe ich andere Dinge gelernt. Musste aber auch zum Kinderpsychologen, weil ich im Kindergarten ständig die Mädels begrabelt und ausgezogen habe. Ich würde Themen wie Religion, Moral usw. und andere sonstige Fächer wirklich hinten anstellen und prinzipiell alles fördern, was in jungen Jahren wirklich zählt. Wachstum, Gesundheit, kognitive Vielfalt. Das Kind zum Natural erziehen. Man muss der Vollständigkeit halber anbeifügen, dass wir in Zeiten leben der sehr viele Widersprüche den Alltag prägen. Diese Widersprüche sind es die dem Kind später den Kopf verdrehen. Das und Schlimmeres zu vermeiden sollte oberstes Gebot sein. Und: Außerdem: Das Thema Geld würde ich dem Kind beibringen in dem ich ihn vor Entscheidungen stelle. Wo ist deine Wahlheimat? Wofür willst du Geld sparen? Wofür bist du bereit Zeit und Aufmerksamkeit zu investieren? Er soll lernen, aus intrinsischen Beweggründen den Lernprozess eigenmächtig zu regulieren und weil es ihm ein Lehrer vorgibt.

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" Don Juan, Today we have some fantastic quick tips that I pulled from emails sent to me or from the SoSuave forum. Enjoy! ---------- Women are attracted to men who are happy and enjoy their lives. They want to be around men who are positive and fun to be around. (Mark) ---------- End the date before she does. When you first start dating, it is important to avoid that awkward time when it is getting late and she finally has to announce that it is time for her to go home. (Terminator911) ---------- There is no issue being nice if that's who you are as long as you are not a doormat. There is an issue being nice as a form of manipulation where you "expect" things from her because you were "nice". (BackInTheGame78) ---------- Over time she loses respect for you because it's obvious you're into her but don't have the balls to take risks and escalate. Act like a background character and you'll be treated like one. (EyeOnThePrize) ---------- Women are repulsed by physical compliments because it immediately shows her that the guy is "all-in", and completely smitten by her. Do you know what women find wildly attractive? Detachment. A man who is unfazed by her physical beauty is a man who will make her work for his affection and attention. (Atom Smasher) ---------- Very few women like sarcasm. Especially over text. In person, body language and intonation can make it harmless. But not text. (Hamurabimbi) ---------- Always keep something in reserve. Always have a bit of mystery. Always be slightly unpredictable. With experience you'll learn how to be mysterious without being weird, and unpredictable without being unstable or flighty. (RKTek) ---------- I'd like to thank the above Don Juans for their terrific tips. If you study and absorb and meditate on each tip... You will become more successful with women. Good luck! "

Don Juan, Are you a nice guy? Yeah, that's what I thought. I'm a nice guy too. Super nice. Too nice maybe. Just like you! And we nice guys... we like to act... well... nice. And this can be a problem sometimes. Here's One Big Problem... Approaching a woman. Or rather, not approaching a woman. You think when you approach a woman that you are annoying her, harassing her, and being a nuisance. And you are a nice guy. A gentleman. A scholar. And you do NOT accost women in public. You are not that kind of guy. So you leave her alone. You ignore her. Oh, you see her, out of the corner of your eye. ("What a fox!") You would love to meet and talk to her and find out what she's like. Maybe get a number and a date. But now is not a good time. Not now. She is busy. She looks busy. Walking, looking at stuff, thinking. She does not want to be disturbed. So you stay away. You respect her wishes. You don't approach. You don't smile. You don't start a conversation. You don't compliment her. You don't get a number or a date. And you never see her again! Gone forever. *Poof * Probably home to some JERK who doesn't even appreciate how incredible she is. * sad face * Bad Thinking You think you are being polite and good and awesome by not bothering her. Making the world a better place. Making it safe for gorgeous women like her to go out in public. What a guy you are! * Clap, Clap, Clap * But... Actually... I disagree. I think you are being quite rude. And selfish. And disrespectful. You are NOT the nice guy you think you are. You Have Great Power With Women As a man you must understand this... You have great power with women. You can make a woman happy. Or you can make her sad. Or you can ignore her completely and make feel invisible and irrelevant. And when you fail to approach and appreciate and compliment a woman, you are ignoring her. You are making her feel invisible, unappreciated and irrelevant. On the other hand, when you approach, smile, and say hi... you are complimenting and appreciating a woman, and helping to make her day a little bit better. This is your power with women. This is one of the reasons it's great to be a man. The Man Approaches You see, in our society, the man approaches. The woman waits. The man is bold and brave and courageous. The woman waits. The man chooses who to approach, who to talk to, who to start a relationship with. The woman waits. The Approach Is Power Some guys see this as unfair. "I mean, why should I have to do all the approaching and risk getting rejected, while the woman just sits there and does nothing?" But you see, this is the wrong way to think about things. The approach is POWER. You are a man. You have the POWER to choose who you will approach, who you will smile at, who you will talk to, who you will ask out on a date. The woman, she just waits. She makes herself look beautiful, she smiles, she acts friendly, she tries to be approachable, she gives off signals... and she waits. She's waiting for you! She's waiting for an awesome guy to approach and start something. So... if you are a nice guy (as you claim!), how about you stop ignoring her and start something already. You see approaching a woman and talking to her is NOT a confrontation. It is not rude and inconsiderate. It is a compliment. You have taken time out of your busy day to speak with her. You do not, after all, approach every woman you see. But she is special. She is worth approaching. You want to meet her and talk to her. She will be flattered. She may be a bit flustered. She may not know what to say exactly. But she will appreciate you and your compliment. And whether you walk away with a phone number and a date or not, you will have brightened her day and made her feel special. How You Think Is Everything You see it's all in how you think. I like to think of approaching a woman as a compliment rather than an accostation. We're not approaching women. We're not accosting them. We are not ominous and scary and evil. We are complimenting them. We walk up, we smile, we say hi, we compliment, we laugh, we have fun, and we make her day. We are good guys. Nice guys. Awesome guys. Bold - Brave - Courageous By approaching her, you show her that you are a MAN. You are confident. You go after what you want. You are nice, YES, VERY! But you are also bold and brave and courageous. Women find this very attractive. Women like guys who are bold and confident and go after what they want. Just by approaching her you elevate yourself above all the other guys in the room. You become the alpha, the head lion, the big man on campus. The other guys, they can only watch from the sidelines. We Love Compliments Think about it. If an attractive woman approached you and said "hi" or "It's a beautiful day, isn't it?" how would you feel? Would you be annoyed? Would you be rude and tell her to go away? Would it matter if you already had a girlfriend? Of course not. Even if you were in a serious relationship with an amazing girl, you would find her approach to be flattering. You would like it. It would make your day a little bit better, make you feel important and special. And you would think that she was pretty freaking cool too. Well, when it comes to compliments and self-esteem boosting thingies, men and women are just alike. We love them. And we especially love those who bless us with them. It's Time to Take Action So, when you see a beautiful girl that you would like to get to know better, don't hesitate. Do not think of yourself as a nuisance. Put one foot in front of the other, walk right up to her, and try your darndest to make this girl feel appreciated. "I'm going to say hi and make this girl happy." That is what you think. That is who you are. An awesome guy spreading love to all the beautiful women of the world. Don't Believe This Myth Contrary to what some guys think, beautiful girls are not constantly approached and harassed by men. They do not have horny guys humping their legs all day long. Unless, she is at a bar or club where approaching is the norm, she will rarely get approached. Guys may notice her at the bookstore, but they won't make eye contact. Guys make notice her at Starbucks, but they won't say hi. Guys may notice her at the mall, but they won't approach and compliment and exude charm and charisma. But you are different. You are awesome. When you see a girl that you like, you approach, you appreciate, you compliment, you smile, you say hi. That's why girls love you. That's why guys envy you. And that's why they call you Don Juan. Good luck! Allen SoSuave.com

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Mutter kann nichts gutes über mich sagen. Sie kann aber auch nicht den mund halten, wenn sie was schlechtes sagen kann. Ich fühle mich ihr gegenüber auch nicht verpflichtet, dass sie sich besser fühlt. Es ist einfach ihr problem. Ich bin nicht da um ihr zu gefallen. Ich bin ich. Unabhängig So far..

#1 Cold Approach direct "straße" HB7 europa Gestoppt, steht. Smartphone in der Hand. Kopfhörer in beiden Ohren. Nimmt raus. HB: " Ich hab einen Termin! " 99er: - keine persuasiveness - keine rapport routine ala Ross Jeffries z.B " kennst du dieser Moment, wenn dein Leben ganz plötzlich eine neue Richtung erhält" - so lange stehen bleiben, bis sie von alleine geht. Nicht als Erster gehen. Da ging noch was! #2 cold approach indirect "Rewe" HB6 Honduras Erster approach schlägt fehl. Beim zweiten anlauf: "Hey ich will dich nicht erschrecken... Ich hab mich gefragt woher du kommst. Es gibt so viele verschiedene Menschen und jeder hat was Besonderes. Bei mir sagen alle ich bin Pole, du?" HB: Honduras. Lächelt. So far.